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Prostate milking is a form of pleasure that all penis owners deserve the right to explore, however, due to societies’s views on anal play, a lot of penis owners decide NOT to explore this avenue of pleasure. Which is unfortunate because it comes with one of the most explosive orgasms that a person can feel.

Smex Ed Magazine was founded on the idea of normalize sex topics that are considered “taboo, educating our audience, and allowing them to make the decision of whether or not they explore this avenue of sexual expression. So today, we are going to normalize prostate milking for those of you who may be toying with the idea of exploring it.

What is Prostate Milking?

Prostate milking also referred to as prostate massaging, is when the prostate is stimulated either internally or externally. Prostate massaging is the name used most when discussing the action that is done medically while prostate milking refers to the exploration of this stimulation in order to get a sexual release from it.

What is the Prostate

The prostate is a gland that is located deep within the groin area of penis owners, between the penis and the rectum. The job of the prostate is provide seminal fluid (semen) which mixes with the sperm in the testes.

The prostate can be reached two different ways: internally through the anal cavity and externally through the perineum. When the prostate is stimulated through these areas, it can cause a Prostate Orgasm, which is considered the most explosive orgasm that a penis owner can experience.

Prostate Orgasm

The Prostate Orgasm is referred to as the Super Orgasm due to the full body style climax it gives penis owners. The prostate orgasm feels different from an ejaculatory orgasm, it is more full bodied, felt through out your entire core. The biggest misconception of this style orgasm is that it always leads to ejaculation: this is a myth. Although some people may ejaculate from prostate stimulation, not all people will. However, you will typically see some precum on the head of the penis during stimulation, this is where the term “milking” comes from.

One of the biggest “selling” points of a prostate orgasm is it gives the ability of multiple orgasms with NO refractory period to its owner. When a person ejaculates, they typically need a recovery period in order to get aroused again and ejaculate. However, with a prostate orgasm there is no rest time in between the orgasms it can give you. Meaning, you can have multiple orgasms during one prostate stimulation session.

How to Find The Prostate

First things first, you want to make sure you or your partner is fully aroused. This is because when aroused, the prostate swells, making it easier to find for prostate stimulation. So, get yourself good and warmed up before you start this style of exploration .

Externally: When people come to me asking for tips to stimulate the prostate, I always tell them to start externally, by stimulating the perineum. The perineum is a small divot on the patch of skin that connects your penis to your anus, most commonly referred to as the taint.

This patch of skin is super sensitive and presses up against your prostate when it is swollen. Once you are fully aroused, either take your finger or a small vibrating toy, and feel around for a tiny divot in the skin. Once you find the spot, hold the toy against it as you continue to stimulate your penis. You can play with the amount of pressure, the settings or pulsations of the vibrator, and see what feels best for you. As you stimulate this spot, you may get the sensation that you have to pee, if you do, you’ve found the prostate! Keep on stimulating that area until you reach the climatic state.

Internally: If you are going to start exploring the prostate internally, you want to make sure you have a very good lubricant on hand. I highly recommend a water based lubricant, especially if you are using a toy.

Start with your fingers: You are going to want to add lube to one of your fingers AND the your anus. Remember, get yourself warmed up first and than slowly insert the tip of your finger into your anus. Remove your finger. Repeat. Do this a few times to get your body used the feeling of your finger inside of your anal cavity. Once you get more comfortable, begin to slowly insert more of your finger inside of yourself.

Once you are inserted, you want to go into the anal canal about 2 inches and you will come into contact with the prostate, some describe it as a stone like object, it’s described as the size of a walnut, but you will feel something there, that is your prostate. You want to add pressure to that spot while stimulating your penis.

Positions to Explore Your Prostate

Here are some positions to place your body in order to explore prostate play! You can either practice this solo or with your partner.

1. Face down, chest on the bed/floor/couch, reach your arm around you and feel for your anus/perineum. If your partner is exploring this position with you, follow the same steps, just have them find the area
2. On your back, pull your knees in towards your chest, feel for your anus or perineum. If you partner is with you, have them sit/stand between your legs and find the perineum or the anus.
3. Lay on one side, pull one knee into your chest, reach your hand around. If with a partner, lay on your side (back facing your partner) bring knee into chest, have your partner place pressure on the area
4. Doggy style, get on all fours and reach around. If your partner is doing this with you, get on all fours in front of them, your butt facing them, and have them find the area

Fingering Techniques to Explore Your Prostate

Here are some fingering techniques to try when exploring prostate play. The type of stimulation needed in order to achieve orgasm is different for everyone, explore these four and see which best suits your needs!

1. The Doorbell: Find the prostate, place pressure against it, then release it. Just like you were ringing a doorbell. Start with light pressure and then increase the amount of pressure as the session goes on
2. Come Hither: Once you find your prostate, take one or two fingers and do a come hither motion (shown in video below) Speed it up, slow it down, find what works best for you
3. Circles: Find the prostate and then drag your fingers or the toy in circular motions around it.
4. Vibrations: Find your prostate, start tapping against it quickly, like a vibrator would. Increase speed and slow it down to your liking.

Prostate Play Toys

Now we get that fingering your prostate may not be on the top of everyone’s bucket list. Here are some toys that we recommend for you to use instead!

Anal Training Kit: If you’ve never explored with prostate play before, we always suggest starting with an anal training kit. These style kits help prep your body for toys by practice anal stretching, Start with the smallest toy first and work your way up to the largest. It may take a few sessions in order to get the first toy completely inside of you comfortable and that is OK! Remember, we take anal play SLOWLY so we don’t cause any injury or harm to the anal cavity.

The Mozao: This style toy would be my next recommendation for anyone wanting to explore prostate play. The size is perfect for beginners and it comes with this pretty incredible feature where the toy kind of “tickles” your prostate with a ball that goes up and down (see video below) the shaft of the toy.

The Rainbow Galaxy Prostate Plug: is a great option for those who might not want a vibrating toy. This glass toy will slide inside of you effortlessly (with lots of lube of course) and offers temperature play for anyone who is interested in adding extra stimulation. Throw it in the fridge or freezer before play time or submerge it in warm water for a little bit of a warming effect.

Rotating Butt Plug : This petite toy is another option for those of you who may have already explored prostate play but are looking for a toy that offers more than vibrations. This toy has a great option where the toy rotates inside of you, gently massaging your anal cavity walls.

The Thumping Prostate Massager is a great toy for those who are pretty versed in the language of prostate play. It’s a larger toy that offers a thumping sensation when placed inside of you. The toy will send thumping patterns against your prostate.

The Ultimate Wireless Rim Job is another great option for the advanced prostate play person. It has a “ledge” that vibrates against your balls will providing intense prostate stimulation through vibration and pulsation settings. It comes with a remote for hands free play with is ALWAYS an added bonus

*Side note: if you do not have a prostate, you can still use all of these toys for anal play!**

Communicating with Your Partner & Prostate Play

If you want to explore prostate play with a partner, watch the two videos below where I give you ways to open up the conversation with your partner

Prostate stimulation is a form of sexual pleasure that you deserve the right to explore with. If your partner isn’t into it, that is ok, you can still chose to explore it on your own. Don’t make wanting to explore this form of pleasure mean anything about your sexuality either. That’s just fear-mongering put out into society in order to scare people away from exploring their bodies.

The fact of the matter is, it’s a normal desire to want to explore. As always, do it safely and if you are exploring it with a partner, make sure you have OPEN communication the entire time.