Smex Ed

Let’s talk about a little body part that deserves way more attention than it gets: the clitoris. You’ve probably heard of it, but if you’re like most people, you might not know exactly what it does, where it is, or why it’s so amazing. It’s like that one movie character who steals the show but never gets top billing—underrated, yet essential.

So, buckle up and prepare for a witty, informative ride as we dive into the world of the clitoris, and how it plays a starring role in the pleasure department.

The Anatomy of the Clit

If the clitoris had a resume, it would read: “Small but mighty. Expert in pleasure delivery. Multitasker extraordinaire.” But let’s get down to brass tacks—or in this case, nerve endings—and talk about where it’s located and what it looks like. Spoiler: it’s not just the “button” you see on the surface.

The visible part of the clitoris, the glans, is that tiny nub sitting snugly at the top of the vulva, just above the urethra. It’s like the cherry on top of an already fantastic sundae. But the glans is only the beginning of this anatomical wonder. Beneath the surface, the clitoris extends much farther than most people realize.

Picture an iceberg: the little tip peeking out above the water is just a teaser. The clitoris measures about 7 to 12 centimeters (3 to 5 inches) in total length, most of which is hidden inside the body. It’s made up of a shaft and crura (think “legs”) that extend down and wrap around the vaginal canal like a gentle hug. And no, this isn’t some metaphorical hug; we’re talking actual anatomical real estate here.

The clitoris is strategically located at the crossroads of sensation. With a nerve count of around 8,000 fibers (more than anywhere else on the human body), it’s primed to be the MVP of pleasure. It sits under its own little hood (the clitoral hood, technically), which acts like a protective cape—because even superheroes need cover sometimes.

So, next time you’re thinking about the clitoris, don’t stop at the glans. Remember its whole glorious structure: from the shaft to the legs, it’s a complex network of tissue and nerves designed solely for one thing—feeling good. It’s the Beyoncé of anatomy, out there doing the most, even if half of it is behind the scenes.

The Pleasure Center

Let’s clear up any confusion: the clitoris isn’t just there for decoration. Its job is pleasure, and it does that job really well. The vast majority of people with clitorises report that direct or indirect stimulation of this magical organ leads to orgasm. If you’re still wondering if it’s worth the attention, just know that for many, clitoral stimulation is a key ingredient in the recipe for a satisfying sexual experience.

But here’s the thing: Not all clitorises are created equal. Like a snowflake, each one is unique, so don’t expect every journey to pleasure to be the same. Some people prefer a light touch, while others like it a little more direct. It’s all about personal preference, so don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner(s)—or explore on your own!

Now, let’s get into the good stuff: tips and tricks for clitoral stimulation.

1. Direct Stimulation: Approach with Care

Direct stimulation means engaging with the clitoral glans—the part you can see and touch. But remember: the clitoris is packed with nerve endings, so think of it like a very delicate touchscreen—too much pressure, and it’s game over. Start slow and gentle. A light circular motion with a fingertip or toy is often a great starting point. Using lube can help reduce friction and enhance sensation (trust us, lube is your friend).

Feeling adventurous? Try varying the speed, pressure, and rhythm. Some people enjoy tapping, flicking, or even lightly pinching, but always check in with yourself or your partner to ensure it’s hitting the sweet spot rather than crossing the line into discomfort.

2. Indirect Stimulation: Think Outside the Hood

If direct stimulation feels too intense (or you just want to switch things up), indirect methods can be just as effective. The clitoral hood, which covers the glans, is a fantastic buffer. Instead of stimulating the glans directly, try stroking the hood or using gentle pressure around it.

Another option? Stimulate the areas near the hidden parts of the clitoris, like the vulva or the mons pubis (the soft mound above the vulva). Vibrators or suction toys are particularly great for indirect stimulation, as they can create waves of sensation without overwhelming the sensitive glans.

3. Rhythm is Everything

Much like your favorite dance track, clitoral stimulation thrives on rhythm. Some people prefer steady, repetitive motions, while others enjoy a mix of patterns and speeds. If you’re exploring with a partner, communication is key—encourage them to experiment and give feedback (“a little faster,” “right there,” or “OMG don’t stop!” works wonders).

4. Don’t Forget the Rest of the Clitoris

Remember, the visible part of the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg. The internal structures—the shaft and legs—are highly sensitive, too. Applying pressure to the vulva, engaging in positions that stimulate the internal parts, or using toys designed to target the whole clitoris can create a fuller, more encompassing sensation.

5. Mix and Match

Why settle for just one technique? Combine direct and indirect stimulation for a symphony of sensations. Try starting with indirect stimulation to build arousal, then transition to direct touch for the grand finale. Or use both simultaneously—such as rubbing the glans while applying gentle pressure to the vulva.

6. The Golden Rule: Communication is Sexy

Whether you’re flying solo or with a partner, communication is everything. If something feels good, vocalize it! If it doesn’t, speak up. The clitoris may be small, but it’s complex, and there’s no universal roadmap for pleasure. Experimentation and feedback are your best tools for unlocking its full potential.

The clitoris may be small, but when treated with care and attention, it delivers big results. So, whether you’re exploring with a partner or solo, don’t be shy—get to know what works for you and let this tiny powerhouse do what it does best: bring pleasure.

The Science of Clitoral Orgasm

Now, let’s talk about the science. (I promise it won’t be too boring.)

Clitoral stimulation activates the somatosensory cortex, which is the part of your brain responsible for processing sensations like touch, pressure, and temperature. When the clitoris is stimulated, it sends signals to the brain that translate into pleasure. The more nerve endings engaged, the more intense the sensation. And that’s how you can go from zero to “OMG” in mere seconds.

It’s basically like a direct hotline to your pleasure center—just make sure you dial the right number. If you’re not sure what works for you, try experimenting with different types of touch, pressure, or even different positions to see what feels best.

Clitoral orgasms are often described as a powerful, localized burst of pleasure that radiates outward. It’s like your clitoris has its own cheerleading squad, and every nerve ending is screaming, “Yes, yes, YES!” The sensation is usually focused around the vulva and pelvis, making it feel intensely centered and precise—like a laser-guided missile of bliss.

Now, compare that to, say, a vaginal orgasm, which some describe as a deeper, more diffuse sensation. If clitoral orgasms are fireworks, vaginal orgasms are like a slow-burning campfire—warm, steady, and spreading throughout the body. And then there’s the blended orgasm, which happens when the clitoris and internal spots like the G-spot team up. That’s the ultimate party, where everyone’s invited, and the dance floor (a.k.a. your nervous system) is on fire.

What makes clitoral orgasms unique is their reliability. For most people, it’s the easiest type to achieve because the clitoris is designed purely for pleasure—there’s no multitasking involved. It doesn’t have to handle childbirth, hold in your pee, or deal with any other drama. It’s here for a good time and a good time only.

But here’s the kicker: because clitoral orgasms are so laser-focused, they can feel sharper or more intense than other types. Some people liken it to a sparkler fizzing out in one glorious moment, while others feel a rolling wave of pleasure that keeps going and going. Either way, it’s a sensation that demands your attention—kind of like a cat knocking over a glass, but way more enjoyable.

Ultimately, the experience is as unique as the person having it. Some prefer the pinpoint precision of a clitoral orgasm, others go for the full-body symphony of vaginal or blended orgasms, and plenty of folks love mixing it up. The moral of the story? Whatever type of orgasm you’re having, if it feels good, it’s the right kind.

Our Fav Clit Toys

You didn’t think I’d give you a whole educational post ab out the clit without dropping some of my favorite toys!! Here are my top 3 favorite clitoral stimulators of all of the toys I have reviewed (which we all know has been a shitton.)

Coming in at NUMBER 3….

The Diosa by Too Timid

This little toy packs a massive punch. This air pulse technology toy is perfect for beginners looking to explore oral sex simulators but might be a little nervous about their intensity. The mouth of the Diosa is designed to encase your clitoris while you grip the handle to vary the pressure and intensity of the air-tapping technology or the vibrations! Explore all 10 vibration modes and find your favorite setting for a completely different type of orgasm. Made with premium silicone material and a nonporous ABS plastic button cover, the Diosa is safe for sensitive skin.

Coming in at NUMBER 2….

Flaming Red Lips by Too Timid

As soon as I turned the toy on and was able to see what it was truly capable of, I threw that baby on a charger to make sure it was at full capacity so I could test it out. Honestly, I got freaking excited for this toy, and it has been a while since a toy peaked my interest, so when it was fully charged I rushed at the opportunity to test it out.

The toy…did not disappoint. In fact, it exceeded my expectations. SO. FREAKING. GOOD!

The soft lips provide a lifelike feel to the toy. I think it would be even cooler if they could add a warming feature to the lips to make them a little bit more lifelike, but the toy, was incredible. I was floored by how quickly I was able to come to climax AND the amount of times I was able to climax in one session.

Now Too Timid only ships to the US and Canada, but have no fear!! Sohimi ships internationally and has a toy almost exact the same called The Kiss. It’s freaking incredible

and Number 1…

The We Vibe Melt

The We-Vibe Melt is a clitoral suction toy that works better than any clit suction toy I’ve experienced. Think of it almost like a Dyson Vacuum, the toy will literally stay suctioned onto your clit, unlike the other toys, freeing your hands up to control the toy, use the app to control it, or explore your body in other ways. 

The app, you and your partner can both download. When you want your partner to choose the setting and play with you, you can give them control of the toy via the app. It has about 15 different settings, it’s waterproof, and has a battery life of 2 hours. But trust me, it will take less than 4 minutes to be experiencing the most intense orgasm you have ever experienced. 

The clitoris might not get enough attention in mainstream conversations, but it should. This amazing organ has been criminally underrated for too long, and it’s time we give it the love it deserves. So, next time you’re looking for some fun, remember to give a little extra attention to this pleasure powerhouse. After all, it’s the hero of your sexual pleasure story—just without the dramatic entrance.