Smex Ed

Let’s be real—good sex isn’t about size, it’s about confidence, connection, and knowing what the hell you’re doing. If you or your partner are in a larger body, you deserve pleasure without a second thought. This isn’t about “making it work”—it’s about making it amazing. Let’s dive in, no awkward tiptoeing required.

Let’s Talk Comfort & Confidence

Sex is best when you’re fully present and feeling good in your body. That means talking openly with your partner, setting the mood, and getting rid of any unnecessary stress. No one is a mind reader, so if something feels great, say it. If something doesn’t, adjust. Sexy confidence comes from knowing you’re both there to have a damn good time.

Now, about logistics—because let’s be honest, comfort matters. Pillows are your new best friend. Prop them under hips, backs, knees—wherever you need a little extra support. And let’s talk furniture: your bed shouldn’t sound like a haunted house with every movement. If it does, a sturdy couch, a solid table, or even a well-placed wall can do wonders.

Most importantly, stop overthinking positions that should work and just experiment. Try, laugh, adjust. It’s not a performance; it’s an adventure.

Positions That Will Rock Your World

Face-to-Face (Because Eye Contact = Hot AF)

Nothing beats that deep, intimate connection of looking into each other’s eyes while getting lost in the moment. A simple modification can make all the difference—like sliding a pillow under the hips in missionary to shift the angle for deeper, easier penetration. Or try the butterfly position, where legs rest up on shoulders or a bed frame, allowing for maximum closeness with minimal effort.

Want to add control and a little dominance? Seated embrace is where one partner straddles the other in a sturdy chair, letting you move at your own pace, while keeping things hot and intimate.

• Missionary with a Pillow Boost – Slide a pillow under the hips to shift the angle for deeper, easier penetration.
• Butterfly – Partner lies on their back with legs resting up on shoulders or a bed frame for maximum closeness with minimal effort.
• Seated Embrace – One partner straddles the other in a sturdy chair, allowing for deep connection and controlled movement.

From Behind (Because Sometimes, That’s the Mood)

Spooning isn’t just for lazy Sunday mornings—it’s also an incredibly sexy, easy position that allows for deep penetration while keeping things relaxed. Need more support? A sturdy table or countertop can be a game-changer, letting your partner bend over while you control the rhythm.

• Spooning – A lazy-yet-sexy option that allows for deep penetration while keeping things relaxed.
• Bent-Over Support – A sturdy table, countertop, or even a bed’s edge can be a game-changer for comfort and rhythm control.

Straddling & Seated (Let Gravity Work for You)

Not all movement has to be up-and-down bouncing (because let’s be honest, that gets exhausting real quick). Lap rides and the throne position (one partner sitting with the other straddling on top) let you focus more on grinding and controlled motion, making it easier to maintain momentum without wearing yourself out. Plus, there’s something undeniably powerful about taking control like this—own it.

• Lap Ride – One partner sits while the other straddles, allowing for controlled motion and an intimate face-to-face connection.
• The Throne – Like the lap ride, but with the receiving partner taking complete control, using grinding motions rather than up-and-down bouncing.

Creative AF Positions

Ever tried the side-by-side leg lift? It’s a simple shift—one partner slightly lifts a leg while lying on their side—but it changes the angle completely and can turn good sex into mind-blowing sex. Or if you’re feeling adventurous, standing support against a wall can be incredibly hot, allowing for deep penetration while using the wall for balance. Just make sure the surface can handle it—nobody wants a mid-thrust disaster.

• Side-by-Side Leg Lift – One partner lifts a leg while lying on their side, changing the angle completely for a deeper, mind-blowing experience.
• Standing Support – One partner leans against a sturdy wall while the other provides support and control—just make sure the surface can handle it.

Angles & Movement: The Magic Touch

Small adjustments can turn “okay” into “holy sh*t.” A slight pelvic tilt can hit new pleasure zones, a well-placed pillow can make everything more comfortable, and different leg placements can open up whole new worlds of sensation.

And let’s not forget support—beds, tables, countertops, and even sturdy chairs can take the pressure off certain positions, letting you focus on pleasure instead of balance.

Confidence is the Sexiest Thing You Can Wear

Nothing kills the mood faster than insecurity, so hype up your partner. Tell them exactly how irresistible they are. Say it with words, say it with touch, say it with the way you look at them like they’re the only thing in the world.

Need some inspiration? Try:

• “Damn, you are so fcking sexy.”*
• “I want you exactly as you are—no changes, no second-guessing.”
• “Your body is made for pleasure, and I love exploring it.”

And if you really want to boost the confidence levels? Let them know how good they make you feel, how much you love the way they move, how ridiculously hot they look taking up space in your bed.

Final Thoughts: Get It, Own It, Love It

At the end of the day, sex isn’t about body size—it’s about passion, pleasure, and making sure everyone involved is having a damn good time. So ditch the self-doubt, grab some pillows, pick a sturdy surface, and get ready to blow each other’s minds.

Got a favorite position or tip? Drop it in the comments, because we love a good sex-positive chat!